“It was beautiful.”
March 27, 2019
Narinder dropped everything to come and be with my mother during her final hours. I called her because something inside of me told me that she needed to be present, even though I wasn't quite sure what a death midwife was exactly.
I just knew she needed to be there, that my mother wanted her there. And I can't express enough how invaluable her presence was that evening. And by presence, I do not only mean her physical presence, I also refer to the energetic presence that she brought to my mother's bedside. She helped us to hold space for my mother, who was no longer able to communicate with us. She helped us to understand what she needed. For example, we had no idea that my mother's mouth was so dry, but Narinder just intuitively knew, and as soon as she put the wet sponge on her lips, she bit down on it, so relieved.
It was beautiful because this was the only response my mother had given us the entire evening. If it hadn't been for Narinder, we would have never known this. She was not only comforting for my mother, but for the rest of us as well. She was especially understanding of the mixed feelings and emotions we were all experiencing and she met us all on our individual levels. She has a gift of looking into your heart and just knowing what you are needing in that very moment. She stayed with my mother until she passed away at 6:36 am, even though she arrived the previous evening around 8pm. She said she wouldn't leave until my mother crossed over, or until we asked her to. She sang to my mother and comforted her, comforted us. At one point in the evening she even suggested we go to bed, and she advised us that she would awaken us when my mother was ready to let go. When that time finally came, we all sat around my mother's bed. Narinder held her by her feet, held space for her spirit to fly free. I held my mother's hand, we sang to her.
I was afraid she was in pain, and that she may be feeling discomfort, but Narinder assured me she was okay. This brought me so much peace, and then my mother let go. Narinder stayed with us until my mother's body was picked up. She even helped us with funeral arrangements and helped prepare my mother's body to be taken away. She was incredibly amazing, and I'll never forget how she treated my mother with so much love and respect. Before and after her death.
She handled my mother's body with so much tenderness and care. My mother had the most beautiful transition, and Narinder played a key role in that experience. I will never forget that. I highly recommend Narinder with all of my heart, and would suggest that you call her for your loved ones during their final hours .
